Mom

When we have time. On a long car/plane ride, or something, I'd love to make a few lists(you know I love lists):

I won't ask you any of the same questions that obviously overlap with dads, this is just about you.

I have started them off, to get the easy ones out of the way for you :)

I think we will have fun writing down, and all the stories that are bound to come up

Of course this list is in zero order of priority. I find mundane questions break up the important ones.

Your Work/Education:

• 2011 Tillicum
• View Royal
• Spectrum
• Claremont
• Reynolds (Substitute only a bit?)
• M.R.S.S.
• Education Degree UBC (didn't meet Rick though)
• Gutting Fish???
• High School.... #3 Road?
• Elementary School?

Your Cars:

• 1977 Mustard Toyota
• 1986 Hyundai Excel (did we sell it?)
• 1990 Dodge Caravan (head gasket blew)
• 1998 Ford Windstar (Burnt up when dad took to work)
• 2004 Ford Taurus (given to Adam)
• 2012 Toyota Prius (Fell off Ferry. Just kidding, just seeing if you're listening)
• Learn to drive standard. Driving through border on uphill.

Greatest Accomplishments:

• Baby Book- Scrapbooks
• Computer Labs
• Squash, racquetball, pickleball, yoga

Volunteering:

• 1970s Crisis Line at UBC
• 1970s Driving around Parapelgic neight girl
• 1970s United Way
• 1960s Sunday School Teacher.
• 1990s Camp Bernard, Boy Scouts President. Bottle Drives
• 1990s Sorority
• 2000s Tillicum Elementary: Dunk tank. So Cold.
• 2011 David Hudson School in Nicaragua

Your Best Friends (and where you met):

• Mieke Mantai (Sorority)
• Marie Hewitt (baby Class with Adam)
• Wendy Boaas Tombe (baby Class with Adam)
• Andriana Zylmans (University)
• Wanda Jung (MRSS?)
• Donna Kolkey
• MaryAnne Barker
• Marilyn Smith
• Rita Holmes
• Judy Madsen (Scouts). Died 200??

Misc

• Family Plot: Ryerson United Church. Maternal Side: Dave Hudson, Kay+Andrew Gracey. Auntie Winn/Lovick.
• Auntie Mona: Ashes St Phillips Church.
• 1973 Miss Vancouver Province+Vancouver Sun sent Photographers. Dropped Canuck Puck. Judged Cat Competion. Crown Next Miss Vancouver. Best Costume @ Miss Canada(Toronto) with Miss Burnaby (Disqualified for stuffed bathing suit).
• (Miss Renfew) Angela Funk. Joan dated her Brother Andrew Funk.
• Favorite Childhood Activities: Not Outdoorsy, Elocution, Speech Art Festivals. Singing, Drama, Melodyettes(with MaryAnne), Entertain at Hospitals.
• Favorite TV Show: All my Children, Law +Order, Knotts Landing, Happy Days, I Love Lucy, Brady Bunch.
• 1980 Wedding: Married Brighouse United Church. (Where AW+DW Christened. Taught Sunday School). Pictures @ Minoru Park Chapel. Reception@ Legion on West Minister.
• 1980 Bachelor Prank: Fish in Red Honda Civic Engine. Bad 3 weeks later.
• 1980 Honeymoon: Drove Mustard Toyota to Seatle, forgot purse and A+K dropped off, never made it to Portland, Oregon Coast. Hearst Castle. Disneyland. Baseball. L.A. lay on Beach- Dad Sunburn Ankles exposed. So bad couldnt walk. .
• Church was racist & anti-HomoSexual, so whole Family Quit Church.
• Plays you were in? Rent? Cats?
• Predictions for the Future (Science, History)
• Learning Short hand? Have you ever used it? Show me.
• Moon Landing
• Laser Eye Surgery, when?
• Childhood Injuries (cut hand on tin can, face stitches? cat scratched eye, dog bite)
• Car Accident as a Child?
• Ken Gracey Magazine about Stocks. Newspaper Publishing. Mom line graphed Stock prices. Sold Magazines @ Granville+Hastings. Nel Dragon (wealthy)@ Joan Wedding.
• Childhood Vacations? Seattle, Vancouver Island, Mexico, Calgary (till age 3), Prince George. Camping with Auntie Mona
• Grandpa, During the war. Officer, Sailors how to swim
• Grandma Teacher in Ladner?
• Grandma Born in England. Would have beeen on Titantic.
• Grandpa's Business Attempt. Cash Off. Credit Cards.
• Grandma's Through really good parties.
• Story of my noise making laser gun as a kid
• Things you taught me: Cooking, Nutrition
• Dad taught me: Math, Driving, Sports, Computers, Building.
• Costumes
• Mom always said it should go youngest to oldest
• How long did Uncle Ken Live at home?
• Where was 1970s beer drinking pic taken?
• Land of Obey (listen to the song)
• All the schools you Taught At: MRSS, LakeHill, Tillicum, James Bay, View Royal, Spectrum, SJWillis
• How Corey became our neighbour
• Me falling out of the tree in mission
• Me typing "my name is Adam withers" on the keyboard
• When I broke my arm
• Describe your Social life when you were pregnant
• Dads diagnosis. Conversations you had
• Photo albums to digitize
• Regrets
• How many times do I have to donate blood to beat you? :)
• Getting Spunky
• My surprise birthday
• Turner and Hooch Auntie Anne
• Debra Jennings
• Slamming the Minivan door and it shattering
• your Conch Shell. Where is it? Hawaii?
• Religion?
• Kincaid Neighbour Burning down
• Who's Wedding did I think was YOUR wedding for my entire life, because you wore white?
• Losing Adam at Knotts Berry Farm
• Who's idea was the sudden living room in Maple Ridge?
• Who's idea was the rainbow in my bedroom (maple ridge)
• Who were my two maple ridge friends? Shane and D??
• How did you and Wendy Meet, Birthing Tabita+Adam. Lamas class?
• Did your various looks ever get inspired by Celebrities? Which ones?
• Pile of Dead Snakes in Aquarium
• Shuswap Memories?
• Why do you love Bosco? Yet seemed to have hated Tug
• Story of how I choked at 2 years old
• Can you take a picture of me+us with my feet up looking at the beach in Cuba?
• How did you get into Sinoriety? Judy?
• How are we related to Menno?
• Have you planned for your death? What are your wishes?
• Retired June ***, 2011
• On Aug 18, 2016, You promised to have your photos sorted within 6 months
• On Sept 1, 2016, I tagged a bunch of pics on Facebook that I had never seen. I went through all your albums 3 times. Where are they?
• When can I give you a Roast/slideshow of all 200 of your various fashion-looks over the years?
• When did I go to Cayman Islands?
• Where was everyone born (Grandparents)?
• One day, when we are in Vancouver. I'd like to get my Irish Citizenship. Apparently we just need to bring his+our Passports, and Birth Certificates, and his marriage+death certificate. The consulate is at 837 Beatty Rd in Vancouver, (one block from the stadiums). Cost is $270Euros. I'm looking for a "Foreign Births Register"
• Childhood Injuries. Darlana and I had two injuries, who was which: fell down front stairs of friends house, stitches in nose. Broke Eyebrow open. Stitches
• Would dad like his brain/body donated to science?
• Dad Memorial+Body+Statue?
• Emotionally, What can I do/How can I help you after Dad passes?
• My Will
• Car accidents. Dad hit dear
• How Tall are you?
• Was did you want to be when you grew up?
• What life experiences are you most proud of?
• What have been some of the most scary moments of your life?
• If I was a girl, I would of been named Michelle. What other names did you discuss for boys?
• Which child interrupted "all my children"
• What were my first words?
• describe/tell me about your high school experience
• What would you want to be remembered most for?
• What life knowledge would you want to pass on?
• If you could change 1 law, what would it be?
• What did your weekends look like BC? (before children)
• What was your childhood like? Describe relationship with dad/mom
• What happy memory will you cherish forever?
• What have you always wanted to tell me but haven't had the courage to?
• growing up, who inspired you the most?
• What do you miss most about "the old days"
• What did you discover/learn in the last decade or two that you wish you learned sooner?
• What were you doing when you were my age?
• what advise would you give your 40 year old self?
• Can I get a list of the legal stuff you set up with dad's final care days. How to cut off drugs at a certain point. Power of attorney, etc.
• Matt Kelly in Birch Bay 1996 Story.
• Dad 1979 new York city. Mounted curb. Expected mom to buy shoes while she waited.
• Mission murder 1985ish. Step brother. My friend. Ask eugene

Dogs:

• 1950s Duke Black Lab bit neighbours boy Billy Wood, while teasing with Bone.
• 1969 Tina Dalmation (Hit by car in gas station. Lost Tail). Chased down street. 1973 Killed by Car on #3 Road--Told on way to Photographer.
• 1980s Honey. Grandpas Dog from Cayman Islands.
• Grandpa had Homeing Pigeons. Tropical Fish.
• Neighbours raised Chinchillas for fur.

Book Reading Deal:

When I was a kid, I had a deal with mom, if I read the book, she would give me the $4.50 to go to the movies.
I read:

• Addams Family Values,
• Face Off,
• Jurassic Park,
• Jurassic Park The Lost World,
• Men in Black

A list of my previous vacations:

Please Help me with this list!!!! Email me Changes
1986 Kelowna	Family+Eugene Beggeman	(May)Bought 1986 Hyundai Excel
1988 108 Mile House	Family+ GG Gracey	(Dec)Christmas.
1989 Disneyland	Family	(Jul)Flew Down.
1991 Alberta	Family	(Aug)[18 days](Drumheller, Calgary Stampede, West Edmonton Mall, Revelstoke Dam, Shuswap, Columbia Glacier)
1992 Disneyland	Family	(???)(Los Angeles, San Francisco)
1996 Alberta Roadtrip	Family+McCambridges	(Jul)Shuswap, Edmonton, Quenell, Jasper, Barkerville, Birch bay
1997 Europe Roadtrip	Family	(Aug)England, France, Italy, Austria, Germany
(2000) Seattle	Family+Grandparents?	(???)Safeco Field has just opened
2010 Mediterranean Cruise	Family+Tom	(Aug)[14 days](Austria, Italy, Croatia, Rome, Turkey, Greece) (Tom Berg)
2011 Palm Springs, AZ	Adam+Rick	(Nov)(Drove down in Prius, Adam Flew Home)
2014 Pender Island	Family	(Aug)Frisbee Golf
2014 Saturna Island	Family+Bosco	(Jul)Mount Warburton Pike. Darlana Pregnant
2017 Hawaii Maui+Oahu	GregC, Darlana, Joan, Nieces	(Jan)
2017 Cuba	Joan, AdriannaZ and Gary	(Apr)
???? Vegas	Rick + Darlana
???? Cruises	Rick
(Often) Birch Bay	Family+Grandparents+Eugene	(Sold 2011?)
(Often) Shuswap	Family+McCambridges	Waterskiing
(Often) Vancouver	Family, Abbie, Angela, etc.	Grizzlies, Family, Christmas
(Often) Mesa	Family, Anne, Gary, etc.

Random Words

The point of this is to never finish asking questions, (just like a bucket list)but in case we get here, first of all, congrats, and secondly, these are just random thoughts that MIGHT lead to a story

• Something about Farrah Faucet
• Stepping on a Nail
• You putting down my Turtles :(
• Ever confused with "Joan Rivers" when giving your name?

Adam's Childhood Friend, Jennifer was Murdered (two years after we moved away):

On January 19, 1988, police were called to the Madsen residence in Mission, British Columbia.
There they found the bodies of Karsten Madsen, 38, wife Leny, 30, and children Jason, 11, and Michelle, 9.
All had died two days earlier of multiple axe wounds to the head. Tyrone Borglund and Eric Peever were arrested for the murder of their family.
Eric Peever, 18, is Mr. Madsen's son by a previous marriage.
Tyrone Borglund, 17, is his foster child of three years.
The two planned and carried out the destruction of their whole family.
The absence of a motive puzzles psychiatrists and criminologists alike.
Individual histories revealed that both the killers were emotionally scarred.

For Tyrone, it was a history of rejection.
At birth he was given up for adoption by his 15-year-old mother.
He was adopted by Arthur Borglund.
Tyrone thrived in his new home until Mr. Borglund's marriage ended in divorce.
After the wife remarried, she severed all contact with her then nine-year-old adopted son.
Shortly after, Mr. Borglund suffered a stroke leaving him partially paralyzed and unable to work.
Tyrone and his father quarreled constantly at home.
According to a psychiatrist an "extremely negative and aggressive relationship" developed between the two.
The relationship ended in 1985 when Tyrone threatened his father during a violent argument.
"He told me if I hit him then I wouldn't wake up in the morning," said Mr. Borglund.
The very next day Mr. Borglund went to see his social worker and requested that Tyrone be put in a foster home.
Tyrone was taken in by Karsten and Leny Madsen.
Eric had experienced a somewhat milder history of rejection.
He spent his earlier years living with his natural mother, Sharon Peever, in Fort St. John.
When he became too difficult for her to handle she requested that he live with his father.
In 1986 he joined the Madsens, and the father he hadn't seen since he was three-years-old.
A year later Eric's younger brother, Michael, 15, also joined the Madsen family.
Lisa Henry, a close friend of Mrs. Madsen, reported that Sharon Peever severed all ties with her sons, "They never even received birthday cards or Christmas cards from their mother."
Mr. and Mrs. Madsen were already busy raising Jason, Leny's son by a previous common-law marriage, and their own daughter Michelle.
The older boys were thought to have resented the favoritism supposedly bestowed on the younger children.
The resentment may have lead to an unconscious hatred of their new parents.

Tyrone grew suspicious that the Madsens had taken him in only for the $800 a month they received from Social Services to care for him.
He would eavesdrop on their conversations to hear what they said about him.
He also became increasingly aggressive toward Mrs. Madsen.
A relative revealed that Mrs. Madsen feared Tyrone, especially after he began sleeping with a machete under his bed.
He said he was going to kill her in her sleep and she lay awake at nights worrying about it.
Neighbors say that Tyrone ran away from home four times.
Each time he asked to be returned.
Social Services suggested that Tyrone's behavioral problems were deeper than first suspected and he required outside help.
However, the Madsens decided to keep him in their care.

On Friday, January 15, Mrs. Madsen took Tyrone, Eric and Michael to the RCMP station for questioning -- They were suspects in a break-and-enter at a nearby home.
Although no charges were laid, Mr. Madsen grounded the boys for the weekend.
Eric was already angry because Tyrone had told him that Mr. Madsen was planning on sending him back to live with his mother.
When the boys noticed Mr. Madsen was carrying $600 in his wallet, they began to plan the robbery and murder.
The next evening, as the family retired for the night, the three began building their courage.
Downstairs they were drinking, doing push-ups and slashing at pillows with the weapons they had gathered.
Finally, Eric with a hatchet in his hand, and Tyrone with an axe, made their way to Leny and Karsten's bedroom.
Tyrone delivered all four fatal blows.
Eric, after striking once at Mrs. Madsen, ran back downstairs in panic.
Tyrone screamed, "Shut up, you bitch, " as Mrs. Madsen begged for her life.
Jason awakened and ran into his parents room.
Tyrone struck him down as he cried, "What are you doing to my mother?" Michelle's life was taken shortly after.
Eric, Tyrone and Michael were arrested in Fort St. John three days later.
Although Michael was an accomplice in the slayings, his freedom was granted in exchange of his testimony.
Eric and Tyrone were found guilty on all four counts of first-degree murder.
They were sentenced to life in prison without the chance of parole for 25 years.